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Episode #184: Adorning the Exterior of Your Home

This week, we’re speaking about find out how to make the outdoors of your own home appear and feel as cozy as the within of your own home. Plus, we’ve got a listener query about find out how to deal with a contractor who isn’t doing the job proper.

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Present Notes:


Entrance Door: 

Home windows:

Porch Concepts:

  • Wraparound porch
  • Get a swing or daybed swing 
  • Put out a little bit desk and chairs
  • Use string lights
  • Put in a hearth
  • Add a TV



  • See what blooms your first yr
  • Perform a little bit at a time

Again patio:



  • Have it match the persona of your own home
  • Take a look at Emma’s mailbox magnet


  • Plan forward
  • Everlasting Christmas lights
  • Print out an image of the outside of your own home and draw out your plans

Listener Query:

What are your suggestions, methods, experiences, and concepts for coping with contractor points, particularly as girls? 

  • Learn Elsie’s weblog about Suggestions for Hiring a Contractor
  • Hold bothering them
  • Give your self a pep discuss afterward
  • Ask your loved ones and pals for his or her opinions

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Episode 184 Transcript:

Elsie: You’re listening to The Lovely Mess Podcast, your cozy consolation pay attention. This week we’re speaking about find out how to make the surface of your own home appear and feel as cozy as the within of your own home. Plus, we’ve got a listener query about find out how to deal with a contractor who isn’t doing their job proper. My favourite topic. Okay, so somebody DMed me and so they mentioned, that is so cute. I can’t cease interested by it. So at our new home in Missouri, they mentioned that they used to reside type of subsequent door to it or one thing. And that at one level within the Nineteen Nineties, they noticed an enormous marriage ceremony hosted there within the yard. It was proper after our Father of the Bride episode got here out. And so they simply wished to inform me and so they mentioned it was actually magical. It had lights, it had tents, it had all of the issues and I want I might see it. I really like the concept of nonetheless throwing some type of, it doesn’t must be a marriage, however some type of large get together there. Possibly a marriage, possibly one thing else sometime, however it made my coronary heart really feel so many issues.

Emma: That’s so cute. That’s the sweetest DM ever. You additionally haven’t proven the home very a lot so I completely consider that they did reside subsequent door cuz to ensure that them to have the ability to like, acknowledge it from what you might have shared they need to actually know this home. 

Elsie: Yeah. The neighborhood, everybody type of is aware of once I was strolling across the neighborhood final time, I used to be there, Each single individual that talked to me was like, so that you’re transferring into that home?

Emma: It’s a close-knit space. 

Elsie: Yeah. So anyway, this episode is all about adorning the outside of your own home. I’m so excited to do ours. So I like the best way that exterior seems, however I feel it has much more potential that may be unlocked. And I positively suppose yours as effectively. So Emma’s home, she’s at present doing her exteriors, like portray, renovation, and stuff. And she or he has an enormous yard that she’s saving for later, so I can’t wait to see what you soar into that finally, like what you do of it. 

Emma: Yeah, so we will speak about paint as a result of really as we’re recording this, we had been speculated to get our brick lime washed this week, however it didn’t work out as a result of they must have three days of no rain in order that the paint can treatment correctly. And this week it was type of on and off within the forecast of a little bit little bit of rain. So we’re hoping for subsequent week, however this time of yr it rains on and off pretty regularly, so it might even be one other month, who is aware of? However I’m very excited when it does occur as a result of we’ve got a principally white, home, however then we’ve got a little bit little bit of brick, and so we’re gonna get that lime washed. So lime wash, it will possibly imply a variety of various things. So for us, what we’re wanting is the place you type of see the brick a little bit bit. You continue to see that there’s crimson brick below there. It’s virtually type of like a cloudy look. It’s very cottage core, shabby stylish, it’s type of that type of factor. And for us, we don’t have tons of brick. It’s not the entire home, so it’s type of gonna be an accent. So I really feel prefer it’s gonna be a pleasant juxtaposition with the white siding we’ve got, which seems fairly plain and boring, simply being trustworthy. It’s like fairly boring. So I really feel like this can give it type of one thing. For the time being, it’s identical to very crimson brick and it’s just a bit an excessive amount of visible distinction for my eyes, and likewise inform you it simply doesn’t actually appear to have any type. So I’m very excited for this lime washing. However once more, might have occurred this week, didn’t occur due to the climate. We’ll see. I’m hoping for subsequent week. Might even be a month although. Who is aware of? 

Elsie: So portray brick, it’s positively a regional factor. So the place I grew up in Missouri, I feel persons are type of beginning to do it now a little bit bit extra, however individuals used to essentially villainize and it’s positively a cold and hot subject, however there’s lots of people who suppose that it’s like actually unhealthy to color a brick house.

However once I moved to Nashville, I used to be seeing it in every single place. Simply everybody paints their brick properties right here, it’s very extraordinarily widespread. In order that was what gave me the braveness to do it for the primary time. After which after that, I by no means turned again, I paint a brick house on a regular basis now. On my first two homes, I painted them with typical latex paint. Within the final home that we painted, we used Roman bio paint, which is a non-toxic, environmentally pleasant mineral paint. And the factor that’s cool about it’s that lots of people will say you shouldn’t paint homes as a result of then the brick can’t breathe, and with this paint, it’s like portray brick with a layer of white brick. So it’s the identical materials and your own home can nonetheless breathe. So it lasts longer, it’s extra sustainable. The factor that’s powerful about it although, is it’s tougher to discover a painter who needs to make use of that materials as a result of it’s not as widespread. So anyway, I’ll hyperlink that within the weblog, if anybody’s curious. However yeah, I feel that portray a home is among the greatest issues you are able to do for curb enchantment, I like to recommend it. So the pink home is a wooden home, possibly it’s wooden siding, I’m undecided, after which our new house is sort of a clapboard home, so it’s wooden. In order that they’re each painted already and part of proudly owning these homes is that it’s important to maintain them painted and sustain with it. It’s an essential a part of the upkeep of proudly owning a woodhouse. So with our pink home, we determined to do an announcement shade as a result of initially, it suits into the neighborhood. There have been already a variety of homes within the neighborhood that had a little bit little bit of shade. It’s not like Charleston, however it’s positively much more than some other neighborhood in our hometown. Similar to homes with a little bit little bit of shade, a little bit bit extra risk-taking is the appropriate phrase, however just a bit bit extra of an open-minded vibe. Folks at all times ask me if the neighbors hated it. I by no means heard of anybody who hated it, however I’m positive somebody most likely didn’t prefer it. I don’t know as a result of it’s pink. It’s a pink home, however it’s not the one pink home, I don’t suppose, is it? 

Emma: I don’t suppose it’s. No. It’s the one certainly one of that specific pink, however no, I can consider one different that’s like a pink home and it’s the one which’s in heavy disrepair anyway. Anyway, there’s at the least one different pink one which I might consider. 

Elsie: And likewise pink is a historic house shade. It’s a extra widespread house shade from the times of previous, that’s additionally why I wished to do it. So anyway, I assumed it was enjoyable. It was simply a possibility as a result of it’s very small. What do you name it? Like a bungalow-style home. So it simply type of made sense. It match prefer it felt good for our new house since it’s the clapboard and it’s already white, I actually simply can’t think about it some other shade. So I feel that I’m fairly positive it that can at all times maintain it white. However who is aware of? By no means say by no means. However a possibility for portray on the outside is unquestionably the porch in the meanwhile. The porch must be repainted actually badly. It’s across the entrance steps space, whenever you first stroll up, it’s like actually chipping off. So I do know that’s certainly one of our first initiatives that we have to do. So I discovered this most important shade referred to as Dorian Grey, so I used to be interested by utilizing that. You realize, I’ve my Dorian Grey factor. If I wanna do a impartial shade, or I might perform a little extra of a enjoyable shade, I don’t know.

Emma: Yeah. Didn’t you say lots of people informed you to color it blue, to inform the ghost to go away? 

Elsie: Okay. So it’s, it’s a Southern factor that in case you paint your porch ceiling blue. So whenever you look on Pinterest at porches, wraparound porches, and porch decorations, you’ll see a number of porches with a painted blue ceiling, and now I type of know why. I don’t know if that’s the one cause, or if some individuals possibly simply see it and so they’re like, oh, that’s a cute shade, I’ll do mine that method too. Yeah, however I initially don’t actually need a blue ceiling. However second of all, I’m not likely afraid of ghosts. So in case you see me portray my porch ceiling blue although, now you’ll know that one thing actually bizarre occurred. You’d be like, we have to ship her some flowers. 

Emma: She’d be like, it was between this and an exorcism. So I’m portray it blue. 

Elsie: Yeah. Our solar porch was really, the ceiling was painted a teal blue once we moved in. However we painted over it white simply to, I don’t know, I simply wished it to be all white. I simply didn’t wanna have an announcement ceiling in there. Yeah. Anyway, let’s keep targeted on the outside trigger that’s what this episode is about. 

Emma: Yeah. Effectively, alongside portray exteriors, let’s speak about one other essential exterior factor that you just paint typically, entrance doorways. 

Elsie: Okay. So the assertion entrance door is such a enjoyable subject, and I’m excited to speak about this. So, initially, I really like assertion entrance doorways, I’ve had them in virtually all of my properties. I feel on my first house we did a basic black entrance door. After which after that, I used to be like we had a pink door after which we had a blue door, after which now we’ve got one other pink door after which we had a inexperienced door. So I really like the assertion entrance door. I feel it’s very enjoyable. I simply suppose it’s good. However the one factor I’ll say is there’s this one home in our neighborhood proper now the place once I at all times attempt to battle, I’m like, oh, the assertion door doesn’t match the home although. You realize what I imply? So that you do must mix it with what your own home already is. In case you’re not gonna paint the entire home, you do must type of settle for your own home for what it’s and choose a shade that’s cohesive with that, I feel. 

Emma: That’s what I feel too. I’ll say if it’s your own home and you don’t have any HOA in your again, do no matter you need. If it makes you content to color it, that one teal that you just actually love, although it doesn’t go along with the remainder of the home, that’s fantastic. Go for it. Yeah, to me it’s like type of a missed alternative once I see one which simply doesn’t, as a result of I’m like, there’s so many colours that might work and also you picked the one which doesn’t actually match. So it seems like this door doesn’t belong to this home, which is okay. It’s your own home, no matter. However I’m gonna go on my stroll and I’m gonna choose your entrance door. So simply know that’s occurring.

Elsie: In our new home, we’ve got a display door, so I’d paint the entrance door, however I really feel prefer it received’t actually be as a lot of a factor to have a look at from the surface due to the, it’s like a wooden display door, it’s like a really basic, like a southern door. I like it, I feel it’s sensible as a result of it’s like mosquito land and stuff. I’m interested by portray the within of the entrance door. However yeah, I feel if I wanna have like a enjoyable assertion door, I’d do like our little pottery shed within the yard. I’d do a facet door, I’d do one thing else, I feel.

Emma: Yeah, and we’ve had painted entrance doorways previously too. In all probability my favourite was we had this yellow door on the primary house that Tray and I lived in collectively. And I painted it with my pals sooner or later and it was actually enjoyable. So at present we simply have this type of fashionable wooden door that has frosted panels and we simply acquired it from Lowe’s. It’s not likely something all that particular, to be trustworthy, however it seems very nice. Our door earlier than had an enormous crack in it, the door that got here with the home and we simply weren’t actually in love with the type of it anyway. And like I mentioned, the window was tremendous cracked so we changed it with that. And I’m having them, every time they do the outside of the home, we’re type of matching the wooden. We’re including panels of wooden below a few of the home windows. Virtually like a planter field, however it’s not really a planter field cuz I’ve no inexperienced thumb in any respect. And I’ll by no means put vegetation in them as a result of they are going to simply die as a result of I don’t know what I’m doing. So it’s identical to a chunk of wooden, however visually I feel it would learn type of like a planter field with out flowers and it simply matches the entrance door. Due to that, I’ve no plan to color our entrance door ever. I simply plan to maintain it the wooden that it’s and it seems actually fairly. It’s like a very nice wooden and it’s been sealed so you may actually see all of the wooden grain and it’s actually fairly. 

Elsie: However yeah, only for the report, we’re pro-statement door. Do choose one thing that likes vibes with your own home, however I feel it’s magical. I feel it’s a kind of enjoyable moments in life like one of many issues that owners get to do this’s actually particular.

Emma: Yeah. And in case you’re a seasonal wreath particular person, which I’m, then you definately do have to consider your entrance door because the backdrop for all of your seasonal wreaths. So I might suppose that via. So be sure that it’s gonna go effectively together with your Halloween wreath and your Christmas wreath. Possibly you don’t care, however I do. 

Elsie: That’s how I make all of my house choices. I by no means decide with out considering of the way it will look throughout Halloween and Christmas as a result of it’s so essential to me and I stretch them out for at the least an additional month every. Okay, the opposite factor I really like for entrance doorways is selecting a classic knocker, I’ve talked about this earlier than. I selected one for my new home already. I select one for each house, and so they’re all type of not humorous, however they’ve a persona to them as a result of there are classic brass, tits. There are such a lot of totally different ones you could find. I feel our first one was a pineapple after which we had a butterfly at certainly one of our BMBs and I bear in mind at Casey’s home I did a horseshoe and at my new home, I’m doing the bat. I’m doing a brass bat, it’s magical. It’s type of a enjoyable custom that I like to do like choosing the door knocker. 

Emma: Yeah, at my Harry Potter home in Florida, which we not personal, however there may be an owl brass knocker as a result of you understand, Harry Potter. 

Elsie: Okay, so for home windows, initially, do you want shutters? Are you a shutter particular person? 

Emma: I really like shutters. We don’t have them and I don’t actually need them, however I really like taking a look at them. 

Elsie: Lots of people have requested me if I might add shutters to our new home as a result of it type of seems just like the film homes that I at all times put, that it type of seems like each have black shutters. However I really suppose our home isn’t meant to have shutters the scale of the home windows is I feel it’s greater than you suppose. So from what I’ve learn, the one method to do shutters is to have them be like actual shutters that might actually shut and so they have correct {hardware} and so they’re not like only a ornament, they’re an actual working factor. To be able to do this, they’d be big. So I simply don’t suppose that our home wants it or needs it. So right now, I’m nobody shutters, however I do love how they give the impression of being and throughout our neighborhood, there are such a lot of homes with fairly shutters and I feel it’s magical.

Emma: And you are feeling they must be actual since you would wish to use them such as you would wish to pull them closed typically. 

Elsie: I imply, you understand, I really like my Finish of the World books, so sure. But in addition I feel it’s simply type of like an authenticity factor for like individuals who like previous homes, it’s such as you wanna do it the best way it might’ve been finished in that period.

Emma: Yeah, I get that. Effectively, as much as you. 

Elsie: I might inform you it’s silly. 

Emma: Yeah, I do. I don’t have to say it, however of notice on the vacation home, the shutters on the entrance of the home, and on the entrance porch had been positively not actual. They had been positively simply nailed in place and I assumed they appeared fairly good.

Elsie: I’m simply saying if I had been gonna do them I might wanna make them actual functioning shutters. 

Emma: Okay. Effectively, that’s as much as you however I do suppose they’d look fairly cool. So if the one method to do it was faux ones, I’m voting in opposition to you, however it’s your own home. So clearly do no matter you need. 

Elsie: Have a look at it another time in an image, as a result of on the entrance window within the middle to the highest, there’s an oddly formed window and I’m simply undecided how it might work, like in case you simply wouldn’t put the shutters on all of the home windows or it simply type of seems like it might be a little bit bit, I don’t know.

Emma: I’m considering of it extra as purely an aesthetic factor and never you’re going to make use of them in any respect. That’s so we’re most likely simply not considering like we’re not on the identical web page since you like wish to use them. In order that’s very totally different as a result of it’s like then they could must be like big or oddly formed relying in your home windows and yeah, that sounds most likely much more costly and probably problematic, however I’m simply considering like cool ones that possibly have like moons carved in ’em or one thing. I don’t know. Or simply black wines. 

Elsie: So that you suppose I ought to put shutters on the entrance of the home? 

Emma: Yeah, I do, faux ones. 

Elsie: Subsequent time I discuss to somebody concerning the exterior I’ll ask some questions, I’m curious now. All proper, let’s speak about porches. Porches are all the things to me. So I’ve already talked about this like 85 occasions, however I promise you it’s gonna be 85 extra. At our new home, my dream is to make a porch which you can stroll all the best way round. A literal, all-the-way stroll across the porch. What do you name it, wraparound porch and you may really stroll all the best way round it, a few of it would have doorways, a few of it received’t and a few of will probably be sunrooms. Considered one of it’s gonna be like an artwork room, a few of will probably be porches. It’s so magical to me. So, yeah I really like porches. In our first Nashville home, we had a sunroom and it was positively one of the lovely rooms in the home. It was very photogenic and it was very enjoyable to embellish. However because it was a 3 seasons room and also you couldn’t use it within the winter, it was type of a bummer a few of the years. So I discovered from that have that I might fairly have identical to all the best way a porch, only a porch as you go on the market, you sit within the recent air, or if it’s a sunroom that’s closed in with home windows, I need it to be like heated and cooled and be like part of the house. In order that’s an enormous precedence for me now. Enjoyable issues about porches, so you are able to do swings, you are able to do a little bit desk and chairs. You are able to do the daybed swing. What are a few of your favourite decorations for porches? 

Emma: Yeah. I really like a swing. I really like a daybed swing. Our porch is type of unusual in a method. It’s a correct porch however it’s a variety of poured cement with a few bushes, like house the place the tree is rising out. It’s like a bonsai tree or one thing, I don’t actually know. And there’s not likely a spot to place a swing, however we used to at all times sit and swing with Oscar when he was a child at our final home. So I type of miss it, however I don’t even know if he would take pleasure in it anymore. Now he needs to be strolling, we’ve got his little bike out on the entrance porch, it’s tucked beneath the awning. And this little cozy coop automotive, he likes to get in that and stuff. So I don’t know if we’re gonna do much more to our entrance porch simply because there isn’t actually, it’s not a variety of it’s coated. There’s only a small house that’s coated and it’s type of taken up by Oscar’s automotive and bike proper now. However we sit on the market so much proper now and eat dinner, Oscar loves being outdoors usually. And so we’ll make dinner and take all of it outdoors after daycare and simply sit on the market and eat and he’ll watch vehicles go by. And he likes to level out if it’s a automotive or a truck or no matter. In the future a trash truck honked at us as a result of he was waving and that was, I feel, probably the most thrilling second of his life, he was so into it. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh, how cute. Yeah. I really like porches. So within the neighborhood, we’re transferring in Springfield, there are a variety of porches which have string lights and I feel that’s actually charming. It’s not like Christmas lights, it’s all yr spherical. If you stroll round at night time, there’s simply a variety of porches which are lit up with string lights and so I assumed that was actually candy. When you have an opportunity to place a hearth in your porch, I feel that’s epic. Really a porch with a hearth it’s epic, it’s wonderful. I might like to do like a eating desk porch finally. I feel that’s actually thrilling for just like the again of the home.

Emma: What do you concentrate on, well-designed and putting TVs on porches? What are your ideas? 

Elsie: I’m professional TV on a porch as a result of I simply suppose if it makes you employ it extra, then it’s good. And I feel that there may need been a time in my life once I was snobby about TVs, however it’s not now.

Emma: Yeah, I just about agree. We’ve got no place for one, however I might completely put one simply to look at an episode of one thing and eat breakfast on our porch or one thing. Actually within the night, in the summertime it may be type of mosquito land, so then it’s important to actually work out your plan for that. However in the course of the day, within the morning, it tends to be fairly good. 

Elsie: I feel it’s a good suggestion really. If this house requires it and it really works, possibly it might make you employ your porch extra. I feel that’s a very powerful factor as a result of I’ve had porches that we use consistently, and I’ve had ones that we by no means used in any respect. And so I feel simply creating routines that make you constantly use it’s actually essential. Particularly proper whenever you first transfer in. So the following half is walkways. So I feel when you’ve got an opportunity to replace walkways, driveways, issues like that, that may be an enormous improve. Currently, it’s springtime proper now, in order I’ve been driving round, I’ve seen so many individuals pouring driveways and I’m like, oh, good for you, it’s so cute. So my dream is to have a brick pathway, for the pathway that goes as much as the home after which the pathways that type of lead round within the again. I simply suppose that brick pathways are so cute.

Emma: Oh yeah. A brick pathway is a really magical, very secret backyard. So we’ve got a couple of walkways, I assume I’ve two issues. One is principally we’ve got these actually massive, beautiful lavender bushes on our again, in between the way you enter our yard and the place the storage is, and final yr they weren’t completely blooming but, however final yr they smelled wonderful. We didn’t reside in the home but, however we might come to verify it so much. And yeah, they only smelled wonderful, I don’t know if it’s like edible lavender or not, I’m not likely positive. I’m positive I might determine that out. However I did discover final yr that it had tons of bees and so I’m interested by that this yr. I’m a little bit uncertain if we’re gonna maintain them as a result of I do suppose they scent superior. However Oscar is rather like, that’s a spot he’s at so much as a result of we go out and in of the yard on a regular basis as a result of he’ll wanna play within the yard after which we go within the entrance yard, after which you understand, forwards and backwards fairly a bit. So I’m just a bit involved concerning the variety of bees I noticed. I don’t know if there’s one thing I ought to do for there to be much less bees. I feel bees are essential, so I don’t actually wish to do something that essentially deters them as a result of clearly, they’re simply doing what bees do, however I don’t know, so I’m type of interested by that. I’m undecided what we’re gonna do that yr. They’re simply beginning to bloom, so we’ll see. But when Oscar and I each get stung an entire bunch, I’ll be like, okay, the place you’ve gotta do one thing.

Elsie: Possibly there are different vegetation or I wager our listeners will be capable of provide you with some recommendation on that. That fascinating. 

Emma: Yeah, as a result of I don’t wanna do something to kill the bees or something like that. I’m simply considering we might transfer the bushes. Truly, a contractor we labored with I already talked about, would completely take them and plant them at his home if we wished. So I used to be like, okay, I have already got somebody, they wouldn’t go to waste, however I’m like, effectively, I don’t know, we’ll see. One other factor I wished to say, that is considerably associated, however it’s simply an exterior factor, are we acquired a little bit free library put in, we had a lifeless tree in our entrance yard and once we acquired it reduce down, we informed them to go away like a four-foot stump and since you will get them to chop it method down and even grind the stump and I mentioned, no, depart it 4 foot as a result of I’m gonna put a little bit free library on high of it. So we’ve got a little bit free library and I’ve seen that folks within the neighborhood are utilizing it fairly a bit. I’ve gotten quite a lot of books out of there for Oscar. Each time I put in books, I at all times discover how rapidly they go and it’s at all times the romance novels that go the quickest and I like it. And I’ve a lot to place in there so heads up neighborhood and proper by our little free library we’ve additionally began to make what I name a fairy backyard, however it’s principally little ceramic animals that I discover at thrift shops and Oscar and I put them on the market and he simply likes to play with them once we’re on the market and so they’re very breakable. He’s damaged one earlier than as a result of he threw it onto the sidewalk and it cracked and broke and it’s fantastic as a result of we’re outdoors. So it’s not like inside when glass breaks or one thing, they’re not glass, they’re ceramic. However we’ve got a monkey and a few canine and a cat and a fish and an owl and when he sees the owl he’ll go, who, who and it’s actually cute. In order that’s our little fairy backyard, I’d actually wish to make it much more aesthetic and cute sooner or later. However in the meanwhile it’s identical to stuff that Oscar likes and he strikes them round and performs with them whereas we’re on the market and it’s simply enjoyable. Simply makes it a little bit vacation spot the place we will stroll on the market and play with him a little bit after which go do one thing else and at his age that’s nice. 

Elsie: Magical. Okay, let’s speak about landscaping for a second, as a result of I really feel like that may be a actually essential a part of curb enchantment, it may be an enormous improve. So on our final house we most likely did probably the most landscaping we’ve finished as a result of I do know this story earlier than, however after we acquired our home painted I used to be like, this seems nice. When ought to we take pictures? And the home painter was like, effectively, I feel you could get rid of all the landscaping and do all new, and I used to be like, What, I had by no means been informed such an enormous activity earlier than and it seems he was proper once we did do this job. I bear in mind on the time it felt like such an enormous change. It turned out actually cute. There’s like a variety of little tiny boxwood-looking bushes after which we did hydrangeas and we did panes for spring after which we had a spot to do one new tree, so we did like a ginkgo tree as a result of I really like the yellow leaves at fall time and it was a really magical expertise and I can’t wait to do it once more. I feel it opened up my thoughts so much to how worthwhile it landscaping may be as a result of it feels type of daunting and it feels very costly and it is vitally costly. However when you’ve finished it and seen what an enormous improve it may be, I feel it felt much more price it to me.

Emma: I truthfully felt that method even about portray the outside of your own home. Once I was youthful, I assumed, oh, I wouldn’t spend the cash on that I’d fairly spend the cash I’ve to repair up my home on the within as a result of I’m at all times inside. And I feel in case you’re on a good finances, like yeah, that is sensible, I get it. However after you’ve painted the outside or no matter you’ve finished, after you’ve finished one thing to the outside, then you definately see what an enormous distinction it makes and the sensation it provides you whenever you pull as much as your own home. And likewise in case you spend a variety of time in your entrance porch or your yard or no matter, then yeah, you simply type of come to worth it another way, or I’ve, possibly not everybody, however I do. So I might positively see that with landscaping, we type of have present stuff from the earlier proprietor, a number of bushes and bushes which are coming again to life now and we’re hibernating all this winter. This yr is actually identical to seeing if all the things comes again, what it’s wish to attempt to keep it if we’re not capable of, like what are we gonna do otherwise to verify it’s nonetheless engaging, like are we gonna exchange this or that? In order that’s actually all we’re doing this yr is attempting to determine like, what is that this deal with? What are these bushes? Will they keep alive this summer time? I don’t know. So we’re simply gonna do our greatest and see. 

Elsie: Completely. Yeah. I feel giving it a little bit little bit of time to identical to see what blooms your first spring is actually good as a result of it might be shocking. In case you first see it when all the things’s lifeless, there may be a variety of perennials that you just don’t even learn about. Yeah. It’s very enjoyable although, I feel in case you’ve by no means finished it earlier than and also you’re gonna do it on your first time, my recommendation is to only be inspired, and perform a little bit at a time. It’s price it for me, at first it felt prefer it was within the boring money-to-spend class for home stuff. However finally, I type of got here to understand it and like it, so now I’m excited to do extra. The subsequent one is the again patio. So I feel that your again porch can actually be the center of your own home. My favourite method to make use of it or the best way for it to be is that if your kitchen will let loose into your backspace. I feel that’s like wonderful. That’s the way it’s been at our house in Tennessee and it simply made it actually cozy as a result of it’s your out of doors kitchen is subsequent to your indoor kitchen and your out of doors eating is subsequent to your kitchen and it simply all type of suits collectively very well. So in case you’re planning an area from scratch, I might actually advocate that. Clearly not each home is gonna have that. Our first home in Tennessee had this, it’s so random, however the kitchen was within the very entrance of the home. There was no doable method that it might ever join in any method and it was at all times behind my thoughts once I lived there. Anyway, let’s speak about a few concepts for how one can improve your again patio. So I simply acquired new porch furnishings for our new home and I didn’t know, so are you aware the model Trex, they make like decking that you just by no means have to interchange. So I discovered that they make tables and I acquired a kind of tables. I’m actually enthusiastic about it as a result of I don’t know what number of occasions previously, which is my very own fault, however I might get a really cheap wooden desk from Goal or one thing the place I might put a desk on the market that basically shouldn’t be on the market after which a season or two later it’s like utterly trashed.

Emma: I’d purchase a kind of then as a result of we at present don’t have a again patio and we don’t actually have any coated space in our yard in any respect. And we simply don’t actually have the cash to do like an enormous pour cement and massive awning and we don’t actually have the finances for that proper now. However I might actually like to put a desk again there as a result of Oscar and I’ll sit again there and eat dinner and Trey too, it’s not like Trey’s not round. The routine is I choose him up from faculty, so we eat not likely even dinner, however like snacks and it’s simply me and him after which Trey comes house. However anyway, this most likely appears like my husband’s by no means house. I’m like, no, he’s. He simply comes house about an hour later than me. However yeah, possibly I’ll get a kind of tables now that you just’re mentioning it as a result of I’m like, I want one thing that may sit out within the solar and the climate and received’t get utterly ruined as a result of I simply haven’t been motivated to purchase one thing. So I’m like, it’s gonna get utterly ruined in a single season as a result of there’s simply no cowl for it, in order that’s an thought. 

Elsie: I’m type of on the level in my life the place I’m like, I’m not shopping for out of doors furnishings if it’s not weatherproof and I’m excited to see, I assume I’ll must see it for a few seasons to see how effectively it wears and like how it’s to wash up within the spring and issues like that. However yeah, it’s price it to me. I really like out of doors furnishings, however in case you don’t have a coated house, then I feel it’s important to be much more intentional concerning the stuff you select to place out. 

Emma: You wanna hear our humorous factor about our yard? Again patio. We don’t have a patio as I discussed, we’re getting one for Oscar’s birthday in June, we’re getting him a sandbox as a result of he loves enjoying within the filth and I’m a little bit uninterested in it. So we’re getting the sandbox so he can play in that sandbox as a lot as he needs. And I’m gonna get the type that has a canopy as a result of we don’t have any cowl again there, so it may be coated up once we’re not enjoying with it. However I’m actually excited. I feel he’s gonna like it. So I’m actually enthusiastic about it. 

Elsie: That’s a enjoyable thought. I really like that. Let’s discuss concerning the yard for a little bit bit. Oh my gosh. Yard. So I’ve discovered a lot, I really feel like, so our first home in Tennessee had this large yard. All it had in it was playhouses. So it was just about like an acre of yard that you just simply mow and I discovered from that have that I wished a extra concise yard, that was helpful. It’s nice to have an enormous yard if it’s helpful, however I didn’t wanna simply have a large yard that was identical to a garden mowing invoice or no matter. After which in our present house, we’ve got really a reasonably small yard, our Tennessee house, feels prefer it’s principally the swimming pool. Yeah. After which there are a few facet yards which are a little bit bit awkward to get to. In order that they actually don’t get used a lot, they don’t get performed a lot. So if our youngsters play outdoors, they often play within the entrance of the home, like within the driveway and stuff, and within the again within the pool space. In all probability one of many smallest yards we’ve had. Not a variety of play house. I felt like we acquired a lot out of it as a result of it was well-planned. It had an out of doors eating desk. We had the cornhole recreation, which our youngsters love. We had a hearth pit, which they love. It was very helpful and purposeful. So it taught me that we don’t really want an enormous yard, we simply want a very well-planned yard. So with our new house, I’m attempting to be very cautious within the planning. So yeah, I’ve been getting my swimming pool quote. Everybody, cross your fingers for me as a result of I’m terrified. I simply suppose that whenever you reside in the midst of the nation, swimming swimming pools are dearer as a result of they’re simply not as widespread and there aren’t as many firms to select from and it’s simply not as aggressive. However yeah, we’re planning for that. A fireplace pit, I’d wish to have some type of play house, however I wanna be sure it’s gonna get used so much. And I’d wish to have some type of yard that’s open to run in, however not so much, identical to the correct quantity. So yeah, that’s my plan in the meanwhile. I’ve redrawn it like 100 occasions so simply to encourage anybody who’s transferring to a brand new house or planning your yard, you may’t overthink it. Actually, actually take into consideration like how all the things can join collectively as a result of it’s so significantly better to plan it time and again earlier than you’ve spent any cash than to begin doing it and have regrets. 

Emma: Oh yeah, I agree. And yeah, we don’t have any big plans for our yard in the meanwhile. We type of have to get our fence changed, however it’s gonna be like 20 to $30,000. So, we’ve type of been placing it off. We’ve got a fence and it’s fantastic, however our canine retains discovering methods to flee and he by no means runs away. He identical to waits on the entrance door however he’ll type of terrorize different people who find themselves strolling with their canine as a result of he’s not nice with different canine, that’s not good. So we’re simply attempting to suppose that via. We even have his dream, I might like to get a golf cart. Our neighborhood’s very windy and it’s a terrific place for youths to trip their bikes and stuff. Folks don’t actually drive via tremendous quick, it’s simply very windy. So anyway, you could possibly positively drive a golf cart round our neighborhood and get to the neighborhood pool from our home. You would positively stroll, however it might take some time and in case you’re with a little bit child and you’ve got a bunch of stuff like pool stuff, you’re not gonna do this. So I type of thought the golf cart might be nice for going to the pool in the summertime with Oscar. I even have this dream with the golf cart that possibly I might do some type of spooky hay trip or some type of spooky, everybody hops on the little practice, we’re going trick-or-treating across the neighborhood with the golf cart and it might appear to be a monster. I might embellish, I don’t know. I don’t precisely know, however I simply really feel like there’s one thing there that might be enjoyable however our drawback is we don’t know the place to retailer the golf cart. We’ve got a two-car storage and we every have a automotive. So our storage isn’t actually sufficiently big that we might put the golf cart in there.

So we don’t actually know the place it might go, as a result of we wouldn’t need it to only be sitting out on a regular basis. So it must go within the yard someplace, however it must be one thing at the least coated, if not a little bit construction. In order that’s type of the place we cease is we’re like, we don’t know the way the golf cart’s gonna get taken care of, be saved when it’s not in use. So then we simply type of dunno what to do with that. I’ll determine it out sometime. I’m gonna be driving round and the golf cart’s gonna be dressed like a monster for Halloween. I don’t know. In order that we will trick or deal with.

Elsie: Hold considering in that course. I positively suppose it’s a cute thought. The very last thing is a mailbox. So I had a mid-century mailbox in certainly one of our homes, and I bear in mind, I felt prefer it was such a splurge on the time. And now we’ve got an antiquey wanting mailbox at our new home. I simply suppose mailboxes, like why not make them match the persona of your own home? I feel that’s very candy. 

Emma: Oh yeah, I agree. Ours is this type of steel and swings open proper outdoors our entrance door and I like it. I don’t plan to interchange it in the meanwhile, however I’ll say although, you know the way whenever you put mail in on your mail provider pickup, you flip up a flag often. An ordinary mailbox has a flag.

Elsie: Do it’s important to use a detailed pin on the surface or one thing? 

Emma: Yeah, it has to have one thing like that. So I went on-line and I used to be like, effectively there’s gotta be some resolution for this, I’ve seen mailboxes like this earlier than. I’ve by no means had one, however there’s one thing and so I appeared round and principally what it has proper now’s this little tiny plastic flag which you can push out or shut and it’s on the mailbox with a command strip and it’s labored. However it requires you to very fastidiously open and shut it and the mail provider is closing it and I don’t know her or him, however they’re doing nothing improper, it’s not nice. It’s not a terrific resolution, the command strip, as a result of it’s additionally like instructions strips are nice. In case you’ve heard me say it when you’ve heard it a thousand occasions. I really like command strips. However they’re not at all times nice outdoor. It could possibly get very chilly right here, with freezing temperatures. It’s additionally very moist at occasions. And this summer time it’ll get actually sizzling. So I’m simply looking for one other resolution and principally on Amazon, I noticed these little magnets that like say, oh, cute, choose up the mail. And so that you simply put the magnet on the surface. Of the steel after which they’ll simply put it on the within as soon as they’ve picked up the mail. And so I purchased a kind of and it hasn’t are available in but, however I’m actually enthusiastic about it. It has a little bit image of a mail truck on it. It’s a tiny bit tacky, however I simply really feel prefer it’s gonna be a very good resolution for the kind of mailbox we’ve got as a result of there’s been quite a lot of occasions I wanted one thing to exit and the mail provider didn’t notice I had one thing within the field and it didn’t exit and that’s type of a bummer. 

Elsie: That’s tremendous annoying. That’s a cute thought. Okay, effectively good. We’ll must hyperlink that within the present notes as a result of I wager there’s somebody on the market, that’s additionally the proper resolution. 

Emma: Yeah, somebody ought to begin promoting his on Etsy in the event that they haven’t already as a result of they’re actually cute and so they’re identical to magnets.

Elsie: Okay. The final a part of adorning the outside of your own home that I wished to speak about is Halloween and Christmas. I feel that planning forward for that is important. I’ve mentioned this many occasions in case you’re landscaping your own home or no matter you’re doing, it’s important to take into consideration how the Christmas lights are gonna work together with that and the skeletons and all of that. So one thing fascinating, our good friend Sarah from the Chicken’s Papaya, acquired everlasting Christmas lights placed on her home. Like that keep on all yr spherical. Did you see that? 

Emma: That’s what I’ve. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh. Do you might have them too? 

Emma: I simply don’t flip ’em on all yr.

Elsie: That’s cool. Are you able to see them? 

Emma: Yeah, you may see them like so far as like in case you’re standing outdoors of my home like they’re not turned on, you simply see there are bulbs. 

Elsie: You simply don’t care?

Emma: No, why would I care? 

Elsie: That’s actually interesting to me as a result of I simply don’t wanna pay somebody to place them up and down yearly. However I do need them yearly. 

Emma: Ours isn’t very elaborate. I really feel like I can flip them on all winter. They don’t spell out Merry Christmas or Ho Ho Ho or something like that. So in case you wished one thing actually elaborate, possibly it wouldn’t be nearly as good of an answer. Yeah. I feel most individuals depart their Christmas lights up all yr. They simply don’t flip ’em on. 

Elsie: What, what actually? 

Emma: If it’s not like a coloured factor. They don’t depart like Santa Sleigh up on the roof all yr, however different issues.

Elsie: I’ve by no means wished to do a ballot greater than I do proper now as a result of I assumed that everybody simply took them down.

Emma: Possibly we should always do a ballot. Possibly I’m improper. I don’t know. I might completely be improper. 

Elsie: I’m very to listen to now, I wanna hear. Please write into us at podcastabeautifulmess.com when you’ve got sturdy emotions or experiences about everlasting Christmas lights. Is there a method that I can depart my Christmas lights up without end? However it received’t look unhealthy in the summertime. That’s what I wanna know. I’m very interested in this topic. Okay, so that is how I plan Halloween and Christmas. I print off a little bit image. You would additionally simply do that in your cellphone, an image of your exterior, after which I simply draw on it. I simply draw on it as many occasions as I need and simply type of plan out like what are all of the other ways we might put up the decorations? There are many other ways you are able to do it, it’s so enjoyable. Considered one of my favourite issues is driving round at Christmas and like taking a look at how everybody else does all their Christmas lights, the magic of planning it out, and being inventive. It’s a lot enjoyable. 

Emma: Think about driving round on a golf cart with sizzling chocolate, taking a look at all of the neighbor’s Christmas lights.

Elsie: Cease it. Okay, so I’ve to only say in Jessica Simpson’s memoir, she was speaking about trick or coaching with golf carts, and now I simply suppose that you just’re like so fancy. 

Emma: Doesn’t it sound like a star factor? I used to be simply complaining about how a lot cash we have to exchange our canine fence after which I’m like, however we’re gonna get this golf cart. You’ll be able to’t inform my priorities are all over. 

Elsie: Okay. Do you wanna learn the listener’s query? 

Emma: Sure, this query was emailed to us from Janie. She says, lately the pipes burst in my New York Metropolis condominium. I’m younger, single, and reside alone. The development firm employed by the condominium administration firm was attempting to only paint over mildew and water harm. I needed to frequently battle for the job to be finished appropriately, for sheetrock to get replaced, and I felt unhealthy about it, like responsible for asking for the job to be finished appropriately. So what are your suggestions, methods, experiences, and concepts for coping with points like this, particularly as a younger lady? 

Elsie: All proper, I wanna begin off by saying, I simply wrote a put up lately about find out how to rent a contractor on A Lovely Mess. So we’ll hyperlink to that, and it has an entire part about coping with sexism as a result of coping with sexism and folks speaking right down to you, sadly, on this trade, on this state of affairs is actually unhealthy. And I feel that your expertise is quite common. Actually, it’s unhappy, however not shocking to listen to that. So yeah, I feel that studying find out how to arise for your self and to say your self and likewise get what you need finished, most significantly are all actually good abilities. Simply coping with the preliminary shock that folks simply don’t pay attention or attempt to discuss you out of what you’re asking for or attempt to discuss right down to you, it’s irritating. So do you might have any good suggestions Em? 

Emma: Effectively, it appears like Janie did precisely what she wanted to do, which was maintain bothering them till it will get finished the best way it must get finished and whenever you’re speaking about mildew, that’s not a joke. That may mess together with your well being, so this isn’t identical to, oh, the colour’s barely totally different than I assumed and I need you to repaint it at no cost. It’s like, no, no, no, no, no mildew is a severe situation. And likewise you probably did an enormous favor to whoever owns your constructing as a result of now there’s not gonna be mildew rising without end. Seems like she did what she wanted to do, however it appears like for Janie and positively, for me, I virtually have to only give myself a little bit pep discuss after I’ve moments like that the place I’m like, hey, it was okay that you just did that. It was okay that you just saved asking them it was okay that you just informed them no. Generally I actually do must virtually discuss out loud to myself and be like, it’s fantastic that you just referred to as them again and mentioned this isn’t acceptable, you weren’t unkind. You weren’t imply, you simply mentioned what wanted to be mentioned and that’s okay. Generally I feel that must be one thing in your routine in case you’re the type of one who feels actually responsible advocating for your self, which I really feel at occasions, so I positively get that. After which in case you’re ever like uncertain, ask your mates, ask your mother and father, whoever you’re shut with, in case you’re like, am I being an excessive amount of right here? Verify-in as a result of your mates will inform you straight away. If I had a good friend be like, do you suppose it’s okay for them to color over mildew? I’d be like, no, you could name them right now since you can’t be dwelling in a home with mildew like that. You realize that it’s there. Generally we reside with mildew and we don’t realize it, however you understand. If I had a good friend ask me, I’d be like, no, you completely ought to name, it’s good that you just’re calling. It’s good that you just’re checking in. Care for your self. That is essential on your well being. So possibly attain out to pals, relations, or whoever you could simply be reassured that the factor you’re asking for is totally acceptable to ask for, and so long as you’re not being unkind, like calling somebody a reputation, or threatening them not directly. These are issues that aren’t acceptable, however asking for what you want even a number of occasions or considerably forcefully, not yelling, however considerably forcefully is completely acceptable and a really grownup and really regular factor to do.

Elsie: Yep. And truthfully, if you wish to do a variety of renovations in your life, it’s one thing that you must hone as a talent as a result of it’s one thing that you just’ll come again to over and over. All righty. It’s time for our favourite half, A joke or a truth. All proper. Right here’s gold. Gold. Do you might have a joke for us right now?

Goldie: The place does a ghost like to buy? A boooo-tique.

Elsie: Good job. You probably did nice. Okay, thanks a lot for listening. When you have any questions or podcast requests for future episodes. E mail us anytime at podcast@abeautifulmess.com, or you may name our voicemail and depart us a message at 417-893-0011. We’ll be again subsequent week with a deep dive into hobbies.

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