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Thursday, June 1, 2023

13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do with Amy Morin

Welcome to The Betty Rocker Present! Do you know that Might is Psychological Well being Consciousness Month? Whether or not you’re listening in Might or not, having sources to assist our psychological well being is simply as vital as having sources to assist our bodily well being.

My visitor at present is a famend psychotherapist who gave one of many largest TedX talks of all time. She’s the host of The Mentally Stronger Podcast and a global bestselling creator.

Her e book, “13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do” has been translated into greater than 40 languages and is the primary in a collection of books that give sensible recommendation that can assist you practice your mind for happiness and success.

I’m so excited to introduce you to her, and speak by way of a few of my favourite psychological power suggestions from a few my favourite books of hers (13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Ladies Don’t Do is correct on the high of my checklist!) so you’ll be able to apply them to your individual life. Have a hear, and let me know what stood out to you essentially the most. Hyperlinks to all of Amy’s work are slightly below!

I’ve been an enormous fan of Amy Morin for a number of years and have collected her books. Yow will discover her full e book assortment right here, together with:

  • 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do
  • 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do WORKBOOK 
  • 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Ladies Don’t Do
  • 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Dad and mom Don’t Do
  • 13 Issues Sturdy Children Do

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Betty Rocker (00:02):
Welcome to the Betty Rocker Present. The place to be to nourish your thoughts, love your physique, and rock your life.
What’s up, rock stars? Coach Betty Rocker right here. Thanks a lot for becoming a member of me at present. Do you know that Might is Psychological Well being Consciousness Month? Whether or not you’re listening in Might or not, having sources to assist our psychological well being is simply as vital as having sources to assist our bodily well being. My visitor at present is a famend psychotherapist and editor-in-chief of Verywell Thoughts, the most important psychological well being web site on this planet. She’s the host of the (now)Mentally Stronger podcast and a global bestselling creator. Her e book 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do has been translated into greater than 40 languages and is the primary in a collection of books that give sensible recommendation that can assist you practice your mind for happiness and success. I’ve been an enormous fan of Amy Morin for a number of years and have collected her books. I’m so excited to introduce you to her and speak by way of a few of my favourite psychological power suggestions so you’ll be able to apply them to your individual life. Be a part of me in welcoming her to the present. Welcome, Amy. So nice to have you ever with us at present.

Amy Morin (01:29):
Thanks a lot for having me. I’m excited to be right here.

Betty Rocker (01:32):
Sure, and I’ve been such a fan of your work, and it’s actually a thrill to get to interview you as a result of your work is so related. I imply, it’s at all times been related. I don’t really feel prefer it’s ever been extra related to have these psychological instruments to work with. So thanks once more for coming to speak about your work. It’s so, so wanted.

Amy Morin (01:57):
Thanks. The world’s modified loads since I first wrote my first e book. It was 9 years in the past. Then my most up-to-date e book was the workbook to the 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do. And after I wrote the workbook, I used to be actually pondering, how has the world modified over the previous 9 years? I used to be like, we didn’t have cell telephones like smartphones. Solely 50% of individuals had smartphones 9 or 10 years in the past.

Betty Rocker (02:22):

Amy Morin (02:25):
So the world has modified loads. Clearly COVID hadn’t been invented and all of those different issues which have come about and proceed to emerge. So to speak about how do you construct psychological power in at present’s world is at all times an attention-grabbing query.

Betty Rocker (02:39):
And I really feel by no means extra related. I do know that one factor that lots of people round me have famous is the quantity of crime that’s gone up, the quantity of homelessness has gone up. I really feel that we are able to hint a number of that again to psychological well being considerations and desperation and other people being sad and never having instruments and infrastructure to deal with the way in which that they really feel and the psychological capability to deal with all that’s occurring.

Amy Morin (03:13):
I feel so too. Numerous the problems that we’re seeing got here out of an excellent place. Within the 70s, we determined we should always shut a number of the large psychological well being establishments as a result of we don’t wish to institutionalize folks that possibly have one thing like schizophrenia. However then we discovered now jails have change into the most important home for people who find themselves battling continual and untreated psychological sickness. You then have a look at issues just like the monetary disaster proper now and the way many individuals are struggling to pay their payments, and so they both have gotten homeless or at risk of it. How do you handle your psychological well being and the way are children managing this once they dwell in a house atmosphere that’s disruptive and issues are fragile as effectively? It’s undoubtedly tough.

Betty Rocker (03:57):
And you’ve got 4 books now, right?

Amy Morin (04:00):

Betty Rocker (04:01):
5, okay. So there’s 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do, 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Ladies Don’t Do. That’s my favourite e book. You’ve got 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Dad and mom Don’t Do. Is it 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Children?

Amy Morin (04:19):
This one is-

Betty Rocker (04:19):
I feel that title’s completely different.

Amy Morin (04:21):
This one is 13 Issues Sturdy Children Do.

Betty Rocker (04:23):
Yeah, Sturdy Children Do.

Amy Morin (04:25):
That’s the one one which’s do versus not do.

Betty Rocker (04:27):
I like that framework for the youngsters. I knew there was a distinct framework. You then got here out with this unbelievable workbook that goes together with the 13 issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do, and I completely love the workbook and have been going by way of the workshops. I really feel very lucky to have had a number of remedy, had the chance to work on a number of issues that I struggled with personally in my life. But you’re by no means carried out along with your work and having issues to work by way of. As a result of issues come up on a regular basis and you continue to get triggered, proper? I is likely to be higher at not reacting or shortly, I is likely to be higher at stopping to consider my response, however I nonetheless really feel offended or harm or I get mad and I want suggestions and practices. All of us do to work by way of the challenges that we face day after day.

Amy Morin (05:27):
That’s identical to when life goes easily. Generally it’s like, oh yeah, I’m doing effectively. However you by no means know the bump within the highway of one thing that you just didn’t heal but, one thing that’s going to hassle you, issues which can be going to return up for you. Issues that possibly you didn’t even know have been a problem and you then run into. It is likely to be an individual who for no matter purpose rubs you in a sure manner, brings out the worst in you, and you need to do some work on: Why does this occur? Why do I lose my mood? Why am I so irritated with this particular person? Or why do I at all times need to get the final phrase in with this particular person after I don’t try this in different conditions?

Or possibly it’s a state of affairs such as you encounter a monetary disaster otherwise you lose your job otherwise you’re in a distinct relationship. No matter it’s, however all of those various things can typically fire up issues that we both didn’t know we hadn’t handled or simply new issues typically too. Perhaps you’ve by no means encountered someone with a selected persona earlier than, and when you do you suppose, “Oh yeah, I’m not carried out engaged on myself but.”

Betty Rocker (06:24):
So true. I wish to get into a few of these, a few of my favourite issues I’ve discovered out of your work. However earlier than I try this, I’m truly simply genuinely actually and inquisitive about how you bought into this sort of work within the first place.

Amy Morin (06:37):
Nicely, so I used to be going to be a physician on my first day of faculty. I believed, oh, I’m going to be a pre-med pupil. It’s going to be nice. Then we needed to dissect cats on day two. Everyone was tremendous enthusiastic about dissecting a cat apart from me. So I referred to as my sister who had a level in psychology and mentioned, “I’m switching my main to psychology.” She mentioned, “Why don’t you go for social work? At the least you then get a level. A bachelor’s in psychology as of late is simply too broad.” So switched my main to social work pondering I’ll change it later. I simply needed to not dissect a cat on day two. However I fell in love with social work. So I made a decision to get my grasp’s, and I simply actually needed to work with individuals. I knew then it wasn’t the medical facet.

I believed I wish to work with individuals and their minds, so grew to become a therapist and liked it. Simply thought that is unbelievable to have the ability to speak to individuals and determine how individuals function. However I actually thought I used to be going to take what I discovered in faculty and apply it to different individuals’s lives. As a result of my life up till that time had been fairly good, however my mother handed away after I was 23. She had a mind aneurysm and it was actually sudden and sudden. She was effective. One minute I spoke to her on the telephone only a few hours earlier than she handed away and she or he was effective. So to lose her actually did a quantity on me. How do you subtract one of the vital individuals out of your life impulsively in such an sudden manner? And so, I used to be actually then grew to become extra excited about psychological power from a private perspective of, okay, I wish to know what makes individuals tick and the way come some individuals undergo powerful instances and so they come out higher on the opposite aspect? Or how do some individuals simply keep extra hopeful and constructive in life usually? And the extra I studied individuals, the extra I discovered it wasn’t at all times about what they did. It was typically about what they didn’t do. As a therapist, I had a revolving door of simply case research all day lengthy. So whereas I hoped I used to be educating them issues, I used to be additionally studying from individuals. And so I believed, all proper, individuals who don’t do sure dangerous habits are likely to fare higher in life.

Then, that was the three yr anniversary of the day my mother died, my 26 yr outdated husband died of a coronary heart assault. Clearly once you’re 26 you’re not speculated to have a coronary heart assault. He didn’t have any historical past of well being issues. Very similar to my mother, he’d been effective one minute and was gone the subsequent. So then to be a 26-year-old widow and have to determine what do I do now, it was a extremely darkish place. I’m a therapist, so I ought to know learn how to describe emotions, and I’m an creator so that you’d suppose I’d be good with phrases, however I don’t have any phrases for that section of my life aside from to say it was one thing I’d by no means want on anybody.

I simply grieved for a protracted, very long time. But I used to be nonetheless speculated to go to work and be a therapist. I didn’t have the posh of taking years off to work on myself or something like that. So I needed to go to work and be a therapist and assist different individuals cope with their issues, and actually simply targeted on: How do you construct psychological power? How do you keep it? How do you undergo the grief with out going round when there’s one thing painful occurring? It’s our tendency to say, “I’m going to distract myself. I’m going to do the whole lot I can to cheer myself up. I’ll do something to really feel higher.” However once we try this, we don’t undergo it. So I actual knew that I needed to undergo it, however on the similar time, I needed to undergo it in a manner the place I needed to develop from it.

It took years to really feel like I used to be in a greater place. I believed I’d by no means get remarried. I used to be simply sort of like, effectively, that was cool. I obtained to be married as soon as and I had love as soon as in my life. However was lucky sufficient, I discover love once more. Acquired a brand new home, a brand new job, began this contemporary begin in my life, after which my father-in-law obtained recognized with most cancers. I used to be identical to, “I simply spent 10 years of my life grieving. I lastly one thing good occurs and right here we go once more.” I sat down and I wrote myself a letter of what mentally robust individuals don’t do. After I was carried out, I had an inventory of 13 issues. I put it on the web as a result of it was actually useful to me. So I believed, “Ah, possibly it is going to assist someone else.”

So I put it on the web pondering three individuals would learn it, however 50 million individuals learn the checklist. Certainly one of them occurred to be a literary agent who referred to as and mentioned, “It is best to write a e book.” I mentioned, “There’s a narrative behind it.” As a result of no one knew why I wrote the article. Everyone simply, Fox Information was calling in, Forbes Journal was reprinting my stuff. They have been like, “She’s a therapist. She is aware of all these things.” I used to be like, “Nicely, there’s a bit of extra to this story. I truly wrote that letter as a result of I wanted it, not as a result of I’m claiming that I’ve this all discovered. I’m in a extremely darkish place myself.”

However determined to inform the story. And so, I had a e book deal inside the subsequent month, and earlier than I knew it, I wrote my first e book and a yr later that hit the cabinets. And right here it’s now, 10 years since I wrote the article. I nonetheless get to talk about psychological power and speak to individuals equally to the way in which I did in my remedy workplace. However now I get to do it on an enormous stage and get to speak to individuals such as you in your podcast.

Betty Rocker (11:32):
Thanks and thanks a lot for sharing the backstory with us. I deal and speak to individuals on a regular basis coping with grief and never figuring out learn how to course of it, not figuring out what to do with it. I imply, what a phenomenal factor to do to put in writing your self a letter within the first place, making an attempt to assist your self, but in addition with the background that you just had, to have the knowledge to attract from to put in writing that. I like what you’re so humbled, you saying, “No, I don’t have all of the solutions.” You framed the e book that manner like, “Right here’s issues we don’t do.” You’re not saying, “Right here, I do know the whole lot that you want to do.” You’re saying, “Right here’s the issues I do know to not do.” I really feel like possibly one factor we find out about if we really feel like we all know issues, we all know that the most important factor we all know is that we don’t know the whole lot. I feel it is a signal of knowledge is that you understand that you just don’t know in any respect.

Amy Morin (12:27):
Precisely. And after I was overwhelmed, the very last thing I needed was an inventory of 110 issues to do. As a result of I believed if I simply get off the bed and brush my tooth at present, I’d be going to chalk it up as a win. However so long as I knew, “Hey Amy, simply don’t do this stuff at present and also you’ll be okay,” in some way that felt higher. So the identical with the individuals that may are available in my remedy workplace. You have already got good habits. It solely takes one counterproductive dangerous behavior. If we are able to simply do away with that one or two issues, possibly that may aid you transfer ahead in life. For me, that was loads simpler to deal with was simply don’t do these sure issues as a result of nothing good comes out of sure unhealthy habits. And within the health realm, someone might run on the treadmill, but when they’re consuming a dozen jelly donuts proper earlier than they do, yeah, effectively, you may wish to hand over the jelly donuts. In any other case, operating on the treadmill isn’t going to be almost as efficient.

Betty Rocker (13:19):
That’s so true. And it’s one in all my favourite issues within the first e book in The 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do is you have got… it’s the second on the checklist. It’s, don’t give away your energy. And it’s most likely one of the well-liked, most talked about of the checklist in that e book. I imply, they’re all wonderful. However this one, I puzzled if you happen to would communicate to it a bit of bit. Why did you add this to the checklist? What does it imply? And why is it so vital in psychological power to not give away your energy?

Amy Morin (13:58):
You’re proper. That is undoubtedly one of many ones individuals wish to speak about most actually because I feel we do it essentially the most and we don’t speak sufficient about this. So after I say, “Don’t give away your energy.”, what I’m actually referring to is don’t enable anyone else to have the facility to destroy your day, to make you mad, to pressure you to do belongings you don’t wish to do, to really feel dangerous about your self, all of this stuff that we frequently wish to blame on different individuals.

But when we cease and give it some thought, I’m answerable for how I feel, really feel and behave from the time I get up till the time I am going to mattress. I get to decide on who I’m going to encompass myself with, I get to decide on what sort of ideas run by way of my head. I can reply to the detrimental ideas I’ve in a wholesome manner, if I wish to. I don’t need to imagine what different individuals say about me.

But it surely’s so tempting in charge different individuals. You may say, “My boss makes me work late.” Your boss doesn’t make you. And when you might need penalties if you happen to didn’t work late, such as you didn’t get your work carried out, you may get in bother for that, possibly even get fired. However simply reframing your language to say, “I’m selecting to do that at present.”

And we are able to try this with numerous stuff. I imply, even to at the present time, I’ll discover myself being like, “Oh, I’ve to go to the grocery retailer.” Nicely, no, I don’t need to go. If I don’t go, possibly I’m not going to have the ingredient I wish to make one thing. However the world’s nonetheless going to proceed to rotate on its entry, regardless. So typically simply altering our language and recognizing the folks that we blame, the folks that we give that energy to. As a result of typically we expect, “Oh, my coworker wastes my time.”, Or, “My mother-in-law steals all my power.” Or simply get an electronic mail 5 minutes earlier than we logged in about someone who mentioned, “I’m actually uninterested in my household at all times following us on our trip.” It’s like prolonged household, the in-laws tag on to trip. “I don’t know what to do. They at all times destroy our journeys.” Nicely, inform them to not go.

You’ve got that choice. However typically we overlook that we now have the facility to say no. We will set boundaries with individuals and that we get to make a number of our personal selections all day each day. And that’s scary as a result of it means I’m accountable. However alternatively, it means I get to take duty for it. And if I wish to create the very best life I can, I’ve that energy too.

Betty Rocker (16:11):
Sure. You talked about blaming others, which is among the issues why we put others down. Don’t put others all the way down to raise others up. That is in The 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Ladies Don’t Do, and it’s one in all my favorites in there. Why will we really feel the necessity to put different individuals down with the intention to construct ourselves up?

And I feel you have been pertaining to some themes that sound like, we’re speaking a bit of bit about individuals pleasing as an inclination and never having an excellent template for setting good boundaries in our lives. These primary expertise that in the event that they’re not modeled to us very effectively as kids, to need to study them as adults will be actually painful and tough. As a result of we wish to really feel liked, we wish to be favored. And so many people are individuals pleasers.

I don’t know if you happen to’d agree, however I really feel like possibly extra girls are individuals pleasers, tend to be individuals pleasers. To not say everybody can’t be a individuals pleaser, however I really feel like we’re type of ingrained in our methods to be good, to be good little women, and to be pleasing in so some ways, our look are speech, all of this stuff. And it’s difficult to interrupt these patterns, when they’re inflicting us to present away our energy.

Amy Morin (17:37):
Completely. And also you’re undoubtedly proper about all of these issues that you just simply mentioned, that there’s societal pressures and norms and issues that trigger us to suppose, “If I communicate up, I gained’t be favored.” And typically it’s true. You is likely to be penalized at work. If communicate out at a gathering and also you’re the one who says, “Really, I’m not going to go for this.”, or, “That’s not okay that we’re doing it this manner.”, there could also be penalties to that. And ladies are likely to face a few of these penalties maybe greater than males do.

So simply recognizing that although, and figuring out, “Yeah, effectively, what’s the results of not talking up?” Or, “What worth am I paying, if I say sure to the whole lot that’s requested of me? What does that imply I’m saying no to?” As a result of typically we expect, “Oh, all proper, I’m going to go try this favor for a good friend.” Nicely, each time you try this, you’re saying no to one thing else. What might else might you have got carried out along with your night? Or what else might you have got carried out along with your time? If it’s one thing you actually didn’t wish to do, simply backing up and saying, “Nicely, what else am I saying no to?” And that you just don’t need to. Simply recognizing you don’t need to say sure to the whole lot that’s requested of you. You don’t need to be favored by everybody.

And it’s actually liberating. When you get to that time the place you suppose, “Ah, so-and-so doesn’t like me, and I’m okay with that.”, is big. However for thus lengthy, I imply, I spent a number of my life feeling like, “Oh, if someone doesn’t like me, it should be one thing mistaken with me.” Nope, that’s truly not the case. And it took some time to get to the purpose the place I may very well be like, “Nicely, that’s okay. If that particular person doesn’t like me, might need one thing to do with me, my persona. Won’t. Might need that I remind them of someone else that they don’t like. Or it’d simply be one thing I mentioned that they disagreed with or who is aware of. But it surely’s actually none of my enterprise and I don’t need to attempt to change my conduct in a manner that causes them to love me, if they only don’t like me. And that’s okay.”

Betty Rocker (19:22):
Proper. Being okay with them not liking us. And this type of jogs my memory of, I simply was pondering, why is it we so typically default to this mode of, I’m not ok, once we always see different individuals because the authority, or that they’re ok or that’s simply such a insidious sort of psychological loop I see lots of people get caught in?

Amy Morin (19:44):
That’s most likely the primary factor that’s beneath virtually each purpose why individuals come into my remedy workplace, that they are going to say things-

Betty Rocker (19:53):
Their worthiness.

Amy Morin (19:54):
Yeah, we’ll ask a query typically, identical to, “Nicely, what would that imply?” We did that about 3 times. So if someone says, ” Nicely, I’ve to go to this factor on Saturday that I don’t wish to go to, an occasion, as a result of…” And so we’ll say, “Nicely, what wouldn’t it imply if you happen to didn’t?” “Nicely, it’d imply I’m a foul good friend.” “Nicely, what would that imply if you happen to have been a foul good friend to this particular person?” “Nicely, then that may imply that I’m not very likable.” “Nicely, what would that imply?” “Nicely, it’d imply I’m not a ok particular person.” Normally that’s what we uncover, after simply asking that query a number of instances. What wouldn’t it imply?

And it’s highly effective to do this as a result of we do, we expect, “I’m not a ok particular person. I’m not sensible sufficient. I’m not, I don’t know, ok at social media.” There’s one million issues individuals provide you with. I’m not enticing sufficient, I don’t come up with the money for, I’m not good sufficient. After which once we stroll round feeling like that, actually deep down at our core, I imply, it impacts the way in which we take into consideration ourselves. After we mess up, it’s proof if I’m not ok. And when someone doesn’t such as you, and that’s simply extra proof that clearly you’re not ok. And it’s like we gather proof that basically reinforces that perception that clearly, I’m not ok.

And when there’s proof on the contrary, like your boss says you probably did an awesome job, otherwise you do one thing actually form for someone, it’s like we chalk it as much as luck. Like, “Nicely, that one factor.” Or we expect, “Nicely, someone else helped with it, so the half I performed was actually no large deal.” We actually downplay these issues as a result of we’re simply caught searching for proof of clearly I’m not ok.

Betty Rocker (21:21):
And we’re not in a position to acknowledge the issues that we did. Identical to you talked a short while in the past about not having the ability to take duty for our personal half in issues once we’re blaming different individuals, we’re not acknowledging the issues that we did. And there’s virtually a duty there to acknowledge, to see ourselves for all of the work that we’re placing in. After which that is the consequence of that, that you just obtained praised for that. It’s not as a result of there’s… that’s it. You earned this.

And but there’s this… Certainly one of my favourite of the tenets in The 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Ladies Don’t Do was, don’t insist on perfection. And this is among the largest issues that I see in my health and well being model. And that is so, so frequent as a result of it looks like there’s this invisible guidelines. I should be an ideal mother. I should be an ideal spouse. I must have an ideal physique. I must have an ideal job. I want all these and all this stuff I must stack on high of one another. They usually all should be excellent always. And since they by no means might be, we’re at all times a failure at the whole lot. We’re at all times feeling like we don’t measure up, we’re unfit.

And that is on the coronary heart of a number of the deeper work that we attempt to do to heal that mentality with people who find themselves striving to be wholesome, simply bodily wholesome. Psychological well being is a big a part of that. So, I’ll use phrases like [flawsome 00:23:02]. I’ve an idea referred to as, all or one thing, as an alternative of all or nothing. However you have got written about this so fantastically, this perfection drawback. Why will we really feel that we should be so excellent?

Amy Morin (23:18):
Once more, I feel it goes again to that concept of, “If I have been simply excellent sufficient, then I’d be ok.”

Betty Rocker (23:23):
Adequate. Yeah.

Amy Morin (23:25):
Then we transfer the bar. So even once we set a objective, you obtain it, and it doesn’t carry the happiness or the aid that you just suppose it’s going to. So whether or not it’s a weight reduction objective or health objective, or possibly it’s a objective about training or cash, once we attain that, then we hit like, “Nicely, it doesn’t carry me the satisfaction I believed it was going to.” So, we set one other objective and transfer the bar a bit of bit like, “If I simply did this a bit of extra, I had a bit of bit extra, then I’d lastly really feel ok.”

And I see this occur on a regular basis, that folks maintain shifting the bar. And on the skin they appear to be actually, actually completely satisfied, profitable individuals, as a result of they’re attaining all of this stuff. However on the within they’re sort of depressing as a result of they’re pondering, “Yeah, however I’m doing all of this, however I nonetheless don’t really feel like I’m ok.”

And the opposite factor I see lots of people do is self sabotage. And it sounds extremely unusual that we’d do that, however we most likely all have examples of once we’ve carried out this in our life. Once you’re engaged on a objective and also you’re not fairly certain if you will get there or not, and there’s nervousness, there’s a pressure, and there’s the questioning. After which there’s the concern too of like, “Nicely, if I do attain that objective, what occurs? And what if I do my absolute best and it’s not ok? Then it is going to simply show to me that in actual fact, I’m not ok.” And folks will say, “Nicely, there’s an enormous concern of failure.” However I feel a number of it’s truly the concern of making an attempt your greatest and never attaining it, as a result of then what would that imply?

So I see individuals throw within the towel earlier than they get there, and typically individuals don’t even know they’re doing it. And someone who mentioned, “I’m engaged on my health objective.”, possibly they’ve a complete week the place they only eat junk meals and so they don’t train in any respect, proper earlier than they get to the end line of a sure objective they have been going to succeed in. After which they are saying, “Nicely, yeah, I’m undecided what occurred.”, or, “I simply misplaced motivation.” However actually it was like this nervousness. And that’s the easiest way to do away with it, is if you happen to suppose, “There’s this uncertainty, if I’m going to have the ability to grasp in there lengthy sufficient, and the easiest way to do away with the uncomfortable uncertainty is for me to only blow it. If I simply go and do that different factor and blow it myself, then I don’t need to have that angst of and the strain that I would really feel whereas I’m ready to see if I can attain the objective.”

See that occurs so typically, and it’s typically rooted on this concept that I’ve to be excellent. And if I’m not excellent, I’m not ok. After which this concept of, “Nicely, I’m simply going to blow it anyway as a result of clearly I’m not ok.” And it’s reinforcing a sample of conduct emerges, after which individuals simply see believing, “Nicely see, I couldn’t do it, so subsequently I’m not ok.” Very unusual, however I guess if all of us appeared in our lives, we might discover instances once we’ve carried out this ourselves.

Betty Rocker (25:50):
I certain can. And I see it each day. Particularly like we’re utilizing health for instance, since that’s my enterprise, I see individuals bounce from program to program as a result of they don’t truly give the time to this system they’re doing proper as a result of it doesn’t give a quick sufficient outcome. And anticipating this quick outcome from issues is one other symptom of an even bigger drawback. And it’s one thing else that you just speak about, in fact, since you’ve recognized it as one of many issues that mentally robust individuals don’t do is that they don’t anticipate this in a single day, quick outcome. However earlier than I speak about that, one factor I needed to ask is how do you assist individuals dismantle this perception that they’re unfit?

Amy Morin (26:34):
So we chip away at it typically in a number of completely different instructions. So one is working towards their self-talk and simply looking on the manner they give thought to themselves. And most of the people don’t speak to themselves almost as kindly as they even suppose that they do. In case you ask individuals, they is likely to be like, “Oh, I’m sort of arduous on myself typically.” However we’ll actually dissect the way in which that they suppose. They could maintain a journal for every week or a log about what they’re truly pondering, and we check out it and persons are often stunned to see how typically they name themselves names, they put themselves down. They usually’ll sit in my workplace and be like, “I’m verbally abusive to myself, and I had no concept that this voice in my head tells me always ‘I’m silly,’ ‘I’m fats,’ ‘I’m ugly,’ ‘I’m not ok,’ ‘I can’t presumably succeed,’ ‘No person likes you,’ no matter it’s. However lots of people will discover that they’ve a tape operating of their head that they didn’t even discover as a result of it’s been there for thus lengthy that they didn’t understand how detrimental it’s.

So typically we chip away at that and we follow some self-compassion. In case you wouldn’t say it to a good friend, don’t say it to your self. However if you happen to do, once you catch your self, as a result of this behavior’s going to be arduous to vary once you catch your self pondering horrible issues, you’re going to speak again to that voice and say, “Really, you probably did okay at present and also you tried your hardest,” or, “That’s most likely not true, that is simply your nervousness telling you that you will mess the whole lot up. As a substitute, you’re most likely going to be okay.” Simply ask your self, “What would I say to my good friend proper now?” And also you give your self that very same recommendation. In order that’s a method we chip away at it. Different individuals, we sort of simply check out all of the proof. All proper, you are feeling such as you’re not ok. What’s the proof that that’s true? We’d have an inventory of 101 issues they will provide you with from the previous month that claims, “I’m not ok.”

However then we take the flip aspect of it, and let’s have a look at the proof that possibly you might be ok, provide you with a protracted checklist there too, simply to acknowledge that possibly your mind performs methods on you. You don’t need to imagine the whole lot that you just suppose. And for different individuals, it’s about altering the conduct first. So another person may say, “Nicely, I’m not ok so I don’t hassle to strive for a promotion,” or, “I don’t hassle to attempt to take cost of my well being as a result of it’s not going to work anyway,” or, “I don’t hassle going out as a result of individuals aren’t going to love me.” So we are saying, “Let’s problem that perception.” It’s a behavioral experiment. Let’s say you truly do exit and do a type of issues. And what might a objective be? Perhaps you’re going to go to this networking occasion, you’re going to introduce your self to 5 individuals, and we’re going to chalk that as much as success.

I don’t care if you happen to get a number of enterprise from this occasion, let’s simply say that’s your objective and also you go on the market and do it. We begin with small steps and other people begin altering their conduct first after which they see, “Oh, possibly my mind does underestimate me or possibly it does deceive me typically,” and you may show your self mistaken. But it surely takes small steps. And when you’ve held on to a perception for a very long time, it doesn’t go away in a single day both, you’re not going to get up tomorrow and be like, “I really feel nice, I’m wonderful.” It’s going to take a while. And there’ll be completely different factors in your life the place it creeps again up on you. So if you happen to get rejected for one thing otherwise you fail at one thing, there’s an excellent likelihood these beliefs may come again up. Otherwise you hit a bout the place you wrestle with despair, a number of these beliefs will begin to get stirred up once more. And they won’t even be associated to an exterior occasion, it’d simply be about what’s occurring within you.

However when you study to acknowledge that, “Okay, I’m headed again down into this spiral, how do I ensure that I don’t behave in a manner that reinforces that perception?” And folks have the boldness to say, “All proper, I’m headed down that path once more, however right here’s what I’m going to do as an alternative. I’m nonetheless going to exit, I’m nonetheless going to go do this stuff, I’m nonetheless going to strive one thing new.” And it interrupts that cycle in order that they don’t really feel like they’re headed down that very same spiral.

Betty Rocker (30:10):
These are actually highly effective suggestions, and I really feel it’s so vital to remind ourselves that our mind, no matter we’re pondering, the spiral that we’re in isn’t the whole lot that we’re able to fascinated with. And typically we want a reminder for somebody to say, “Hey, look, you’re so targeted on this whole laundry checklist of issues that you just suppose are mistaken with you or that you just’ve carried out mistaken. And all of us make errors in life, and also you’re so targeted on people who you’ve failed to have a look at the checklist of the issues that you just’ve carried out effectively, the generosity that you just’ve exhibited, all of the belongings you’ve carried out so effectively. And it’s like, so which aspect, the great or the detrimental, are you going to feed mentally about your self along with your detrimental ideas? And I discussed errors a minute in the past, and I really feel like we repeat our errors again and again typically. After which as I simply marvel, why will we repeat our errors so simply?

Amy Morin (31:23):
A few causes. I feel typically we simply have a go-to. It is likely to be one thing that we attain for once we’re offended, one thing we do once we’re anxious. And we don’t actually acknowledge, “Why did I try this? What’s the emotion behind why I did it?” Perhaps it’s since you’re bored, possibly it’s since you’re lonely. And recognizing that emotion and what’s a greater option to maintain it might typically maintain us from doing that. So it is likely to be that someone has a objective in relation to their meals and so they say, “I’m not going to eat sure meals. However then after I’m actually stressed, guess what I do? I am going again to these outdated habits.” Or someone who’s has a monetary objective and he’s like, “Nicely, after I’m lonely, what do I do? I store on-line.” So simply recognizing what’s the emotion? What was the set off that led to that? After which what can I do as an alternative? Subsequent time I really feel that emotion, what am I going to do? And typically individuals will provide you with a plan too. I’m going to plan forward.

So there was a person I labored with who used to say, “Amy, each day after work, I wish to go to the gymnasium. After which as soon as I truly get out of labor, I’m like, ‘I’m drained. I’m going to go house at present.’” So we got here up with an inventory on his steering wheel of the highest 10 the reason why he ought to go to the gymnasium as a result of when he pulled out of the car parking zone, he might go and he might go house, or he might flip left and he might go to the gymnasium. So earlier than he began his automobile each day he would learn this checklist of the ten the reason why he ought to go to the gymnasium and speak himself into it as an alternative of permitting himself to speak himself out of it.

Or I had one other lady I labored with who had an ex who wasn’t good for her, however when she noticed his quantity on the telephone, she would instantly reply it. And he or she was excited to listen to from him, however deep down she knew it wasn’t good for her. So we taped an inventory of all of the the reason why she shouldn’t reply the telephone to the again of her telephone.

Betty Rocker (33:02):
I adore it.

Amy Morin (33:03):
And when the telephone would would ring, she knew if it was him, earlier than she might decide up, she at the very least needed to learn that checklist. And if she nonetheless felt like answering the telephone on the finish of that, then she’d give herself permission to do it. She’d flipped the telephone over and she or he’d begin to learn among the the reason why she shouldn’t speak to him. And he or she mentioned, “Yeah, no. Then it was straightforward, I didn’t decide the telephone up as a result of I used to be in a position to be reminded.” But it surely nonetheless is feelings that usually speak us into doing issues we don’t wish to do. Her pleasure to reply the telephone made her overlook about all of the dangerous issues he’d carried out to her up to now, or the man who will get out of labor and thinks he’s drained talks himself into going house. However he discovered learn how to speak himself into truly doing one thing that was more healthy. So simply getting a greater deal with on what our feelings are and the way these feelings drive our selections makes an enormous distinction.

Betty Rocker (33:49):
That’s a tremendous share. And it jogs my memory a bit of little bit of the way you began this dialog with me, telling me concerning the letter you wrote to your self, which had 13 Issues That Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do as a manner so that you can cope along with your grief. And what a strong manner that’s to work with the innate intelligence of your individual thoughts. So from each of those two individuals within the examples you simply shared, every of them had the checklist in their very own head. They’d all the explanations and the entire examples themselves to assist themselves, however they’d fixate on the quick sensation, the quick feeling within the second. For her, it was that robust overpowering affiliation of the love they used, the couple used to share. For the person, it was his fatigue on the finish of the day. And but once they might have a look at the checklist of issues that they themselves had considered, the intention that they’d set, they have been in a position to observe by way of with their objective.

And I liked too the way you had them put the checklist in a big place the place they may see it in the course of the time when that motion would occur. What a strong software that anybody might do. I imply, if you happen to catch your self, so one factor we see loads within the health trade is individuals physique checking. So that they’re always wanting within the mirror to see how does their physique look? How does it examine to different individuals’s our bodies? How does it examine to what their expectation is of their head of perfection? And this may be actually damaging due to all that psychological self-talk that we have been speaking about. And so I’ve the considered why not write an inventory of all the explanations that you’re ok, what are the issues about your self which can be so fantastic that you would possibly see once you look within the mirror? And if you happen to can’t consider them, use what Amy mentioned a couple of minutes in the past; what would one in all your mates inform you about your self?

In case you have been speaking to one in all your mates and she or he was telling you all these horrible issues about herself and saying how shitty she felt and the way fats she was and all this, you don’t sit there and say, “Yeah, you’re proper. You’re a shitty particular person, you’re fats, you’re horrible.” You say, “Oh my gosh, let me inform you what I see in you. Let me be that mirror to mirror again the greatness that I see in you, my pricey good friend.” So you have got the chance to be that mirror to your self to mirror again these constructive issues. And if you happen to can’t, take into consideration what your good friend would inform you and write them down on an inventory, and put that in your mirror and have a look at it anytime you are feeling the necessity to have a look at your self critically. It’s not that we now have to not see issues that we wish to work on in ourselves, it’s not that we are able to’t have flaws. This is the reason I like Flawsome as a result of I really feel prefer it’s we’re human, we’re speculated to have issues to work on, it’s regular.

However to be so fixated on them and to make use of that to undermine our happiness, this takes away the enjoyment of life and can derail you from reaching targets, I feel. And that’s what these books are so useful for, they only actually take you on that journey of growing psychological power and having a reference. Once you’re feeling crappy to select up a e book like this and skim one thing uplifting and skim a psychological framework shift, I feel all of us want that. It’s arduous within the second once you’re associating a powerful emotion to tug your self out of that alone with out instruments.

Amy Morin (37:13):
Completely. And typically individuals will say to me, “Why’d you make your e book detrimental? It’s about what to not do.” And I’ll attempt to clarify to them, “I don’t know. I discover it liberating to say, ‘Okay, Amy, simply don’t do these sure issues at present and also you’ll be okay.’” And I don’t discover it to be detrimental to say, “Let’s hand over your worst habits.” And as a therapist, I used to be skilled to essentially construct on individuals’s strengths. Once they are available in, level out what they’re doing effectively, assist them maintain doing that. Yeah, completely, that’s a beautiful factor to do. However what if I don’t level out the one or two belongings you’re doing that outweighs the entire constructive issues you have got? I felt like I used to be doing individuals a disservice if I didn’t say, “However by the way in which, despite the fact that you follow gratitude 23 hours a day, it’s that one hour that you just spend indulging and feeling sorry for your self that’s outdoing all of the gratitude. Let’s determine learn how to deal with that too so that you just don’t try this. I would like your good habits to be efficient.”

Betty Rocker (38:02):
And as adults, I really feel like we are likely to stack up these to-do lists. We talked about this earlier. We have a tendency to only begin to construct all of those to-do lists round our days, how a lot stuff we now have to do. It’s very liberating to take some issues off the checklist. So I just like the framework. I famous that the youngsters e book, like we have been speaking about earlier, after I was making an attempt to recollect learn how to say it accurately, as a result of it breaks the format.

Amy Morin (38:27):

Betty Rocker (38:27):
Children, alternatively, want a distinct construction, right? You framed that within the constructive for an excellent purpose.

Amy Morin (38:35):
Yeah. When it got here to the youngsters e book, my ideas have been, “I hope that if we educate children these wholesome habits now, like perseverance, then we don’t have to show them not to surrender after failure as an grownup.” So if we educate these constructive issues now, they gained’t develop the unhealthy habits that almost all of us did as a result of we didn’t study this stuff as children. And in addition, I had a niece who was 10 on the time, and she or he mentioned, “Oh, Auntie Ame, we get informed what to not do on a regular basis. Are you able to simply write a e book for youths about what to do?”  And I believed you’re proper, we should always have a e book about what to do for youths. So I used to be excited to have the ability to write that e book as a result of children don’t study these things. The rationale I suppose I wrote it within the first place was after I wrote my first e book, the most important query I had was from dad and mom who mentioned, “Now, how do I educate this to my children?” So I wrote a parenting e book to assist dad and mom determine, how do you do that at house? However then dad and mom have been actually asking, “Okay, now what else do I do to assist reinforce this to my children?”

And that’s why the youngsters’ e book got here after that was as a result of I needed dad and mom to have the abilities first, as a result of then you’ll be able to reinforce it. After which I needed children to have the ability to sit down and skim one thing about tales about different children and to know, “That is what labored for this child, or this child struggles with one thing like I do too. Right here’s what can work.” And that was a extremely enjoyable one to put in writing too.

Betty Rocker (39:48):
Tales are so highly effective and vital for us to know ourselves. I feel you’re so proper.

Amy Morin (39:52):

Betty Rocker (39:54):
I completely love… I feel too, pertaining to the theme of how will we construct wholesome habits into children? And since such as you mentioned, as adults, we’re having to unlearn a number of unhealthy habits or break templates that have been put in in our working programs with out anyone intending for that to occur. However that’s simply the way it occurred. And right here we go. Now we’re adults having malfunctions with our working system. I used to say after I was doing a number of remedy was I used to be making an attempt to reprogram my mind. I used to be making an attempt to do away with among the bugs in my working system and making an attempt to put in some upgraded software program principally as a result of I wasn’t functioning in a wholesome manner on a regular basis.

Amy Morin (40:44):
And that’s a great way to place it, as a result of we don’t discover it. It’s our personal mind. So it’s arduous to note what our errors are or how the habits which can be holding us again. And fogeys will say, “I don’t know what to do. How do I educate my children?” And a number of the habits dad and mom have, your children study by watching you. So in my remedy workplace, I labored with children for a very long time and children would say issues like, “Nicely, I don’t suppose my dad and mom ever get offended.” Or, “What does your mother do when she’s unhappy?” They’re like, “I don’t know. I’ve by no means actually seen her unhappy.” Or, “They actually solely get offended after I depart my toys out. However that’s it. Apart from that, my dad and mom don’t get mad.”

As a result of we simply don’t speak about feelings at house. When dad and mom make errors, we don’t wish to go to the youngsters and apologize. As a result of a number of dad and mom are like, “I don’t wish to look weak. I don’t wish to inform them I’m tousled.” All of us make errors. So nearly position modeling the youngsters. What do you do once you make a mistake? How do you come clean with it? It’s embarrassing. What do you say? Otherwise you’ve tousled and royally in entrance of an entire bunch of individuals. How do you’re taking duty for that? Or how do you speak to your children? You don’t wish to burden them with grownup issues by telling them about your boss and different points occurring at work. However alternatively, you need children to know, typically life is hard and right here’s what I do.

Whether or not you learn a e book otherwise you train, no matter sorts of coping methods you have got for youths to know, “Oh, that’s why mother or dad does this stuff as a result of they’re making an attempt to cope with their unhappy feelings. Or once they’re offended, that is what they do and that’s how they cope with it”. And simply placing a label on emotions. I don’t find out about you, however at my home as a child, we didn’t actually speak that a lot about emotions, emotion phrases, that sort of stuff. They didn’t actually come up in on a regular basis dialog. And lots of people don’t know whilst adults, how do you label an emotion? How do you speak about it?

The extra we try this for youths, the extra that we at house can say issues like, “It appears to be like such as you’re offended proper now. Let’s determine what to do.” Or, ” I’m feeling actually sort of unhappy at present, so I’m not going to do this.” Or no matter it’s. However for youths to know that all of us have feelings and all of us have selections in how we handle these feelings could be a nice first step into educating children learn how to develop as much as be mentally stronger.

Betty Rocker (42:45):
That’s wonderful. I feel loads concerning the position modeling that you just talked about. Numerous the ladies I maintain in my communities, one of many dialog factors we now have loads is children don’t decide up what you inform them to do, they decide up what you present them learn how to be. And this factor concerning the fixed beating ourselves up mentally, typically that detrimental self-talk in the direction of our personal our bodies and this fixed shaming of our physique for not being excellent, we study that from watching another person mannequin it. And so we’re inadvertently modeling that to the youngsters that come after us.

And so actually understanding that and figuring out that this work is so vital to do, not only for your self, however for the youngsters who’re wanting as much as you. And possibly it’s not simply your individual children, however may very well be children that you just come into contact with, and different individuals as effectively. We now have such an affect by way of our conduct and taking possession of that’s so vital. I actually love that entire framework that you’ve there.

Amy Morin (43:55):
Thanks. I really like what you simply mentioned, that we are able to affect individuals round us. As a result of I hear a lot the place persons are like, “Nicely, you’ll be able to’t change anybody else.” You possibly can’t pressure anyone else to vary. However I assure you’ll be able to have an enormous affect on your loved ones, whether or not it’s your companion, your neighbor, your mates, the individuals you spend time with, your feelings are contagious and the way in which that you just deal with them. And once you position mannequin boundaries for different individuals, you’ll be able to have a big impact on how they work together with others. You possibly can educate individuals so many issues by the way in which that we behave. So I’m glad that you just introduced that up too.

Betty Rocker (44:28):
I feel a number of what I maintain fascinated with as we speak about this are households and loving partnerships. I feel a lot of this interpersonal wrestle that folks have comes from household relationships. Boundary setting is the toughest. You may discover a option to follow it at work, however you wrestle to follow it at house within the household setting. And it’s just like the individuals who we love essentially the most, we wrestle essentially the most with in individuals pleasing and boundary setting in all of those elements of our interpersonal relationships. It takes a really mentally robust particular person to have the ability to break programming with the core, with the household. Wouldn’t you say?

Amy Morin (45:19):
Completely. The best way that we grew up impacts us in so some ways. And folks that have recognized you for a very long time could have sure expectations of you. I’ve informed this story earlier than. My sister’s a therapist now, she’s 4 years older than I’m. And after I was a child, I used to be tremendous shy and she or he spoke for me. I simply by no means talked. She at all times talked for me.

She came over me a number of years in the past and we have been outdoors. And I dwell in South Florida the place it’s actually sunny. And so she was going to ask the wait workers if we might have an umbrella at our desk. However she was asking for me as a result of she forgets that as an grownup, I can speak now. I child you not. I’m not the identical shy child. However similar with associates, household from again house anticipating me to be the actually shy child that I used to be as a result of they knew me again then. And so once they hear me now, they’re like, “You’ve got a podcast?” “Do you actually hear me?

Issues like that as a result of we get caught in a number of these roles. Otherwise you may say, “Nicely, I’ve by no means set a boundary with my mom earlier than.” And right here I’m 40 years outdated and I’m making an attempt to inform her, “No, truly I’m not going to speak to you about that.” Or, “That’s not what you are promoting.” Or, “I’m going to hold the telephone up if you happen to speak to me like that.” Feels actually weird. However typically these are our greatest alternatives to say, “That is the place I want to begin working towards this stuff.” And yeah, there is likely to be repercussions for it, nevertheless it will also be one of many kindest and greatest issues we are able to do is to set more healthy boundaries with individuals and to attempt to outgrow a few of these labels and expectations that folks might need on us.

Betty Rocker (46:45):
And in addition hearkening again to what you mentioned about how our actions and behaviors affect individuals round us. In sibling relationships, if one sibling has the braveness to face up and set a boundary, it provides the others an instance that it’s at the very least a chance to indicate one other option to do issues.

Amy Morin (47:09):
Precisely. As a result of we see household dynamics get so weird and you’ve got siblings. Granted someone within the household’s most likely battling a psychological well being difficulty, a substance abuse difficulty, prolonged household, and who’s speaking to who, and other people begin taking sides and issues can get actually sophisticated. And figuring out, all proper, regardless of how sophisticated issues are or how messy it’s, it’s nonetheless as much as me to say, “That is what I’m going to permit in my life and the way I wish to be handled.”

Betty Rocker (47:36):
So true. It’s at all times so private. That is the factor, your psychological well being is so private and that’s why it’s as much as you to do the work to maintain it. And a number of you listening, do the work to maintain your bodily well being. You go to the ends of your time, your power to maintain your bodily well being. And a part of one of many causes I actually needed to interview Amy and share her with all of you is as a result of your psychological well being is a very powerful well being that you’ve.

Caring for it, investing the time and taking good care of it in these ideas that you’ve and in the way in which you develop power all through your day-to-day life and thru the encounters you have got with different individuals, to me it’s been a very powerful facet of my very own progress and happiness. I actually, actually respect these books, this work. It’s so wanted and priceless and I’m so grateful that you just got here to speak to us about all of it at present.

I wish to share among the locations individuals can join with you. However earlier than I try this, I wish to provide the final phrase. Is there something that we didn’t contact on that you just’d wish to impart or share with individuals listening?

Amy Morin (49:00):
I suppose I’d simply say you’re stronger than you suppose. Don’t imagine your mind on a regular basis. And to do issues on goal that help you see how cool you might be, how highly effective you might be, whether or not it’s a health problem and also you simply don’t hearken to your mind. I inform my viewers, I am going operating each day and I run as quick as I can and my mind will inform me, “Oh, you need to cease. You possibly can’t maintain this up.” I on purposely simply maintain operating simply to search out methods to show to myself that I don’t need to hearken to my mind. I feel once we all do these issues, it teaches us that, “Yeah, I’m extra stronger and extra succesful than my mind provides me credit score for.”

Betty Rocker (49:34):
Additionally true. Thanks for sharing that. Now you talked about earlier you have got a podcast, The Verywell Thoughts Podcast. Did I say it proper?

Amy Morin (49:42):
You probably did.

Betty Rocker (49:44):
That’s the podcast. So take a look at Amy’s podcast, The Verywell Thoughts Podcast. You possibly can observe her on Instagram. Is it amymorinauthor on Instagram?

Amy Morin (49:53):

Betty Rocker (49:55):
And Fb, in fact, you’ll be able to simply e book her up. Amy Morin. Every other locations you need me to inform them that they will discover you that I didn’t point out?

Amy Morin (50:04):
I suppose my web site’s, the opposite greatest web site which is amymorinlcsw, as in licensed scientific social employee.com.

Betty Rocker (50:12):
And there you will discover entry to all of her unbelievable books, this superior new workbook that she has for the unique e book. 13 Issues Mentally Sturdy Individuals Don’t Do. I really like that you’ve these books for folks and children as effectively now. Simply unbelievable. This e book for girls. Learn all of the books that she has. They’re wonderful. And I encourage you to additionally take a look at her movies that she shares on her Instagram web page since you’re at all times giving tidbits and nuggets and issues that assist me keep linked to the issues I discovered within the books. They remind me to go have a look at the books after I want inspiration typically.

So once more, Amy, thanks a lot to your time at present and for sharing all of those nice suggestions with us and these tales, and we sit up for connecting with you once more very quickly.

Amy Morin (50:59):
Thanks a lot for having me.

Betty Rocker (60:05)
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